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Dear dishwasher,
Is it right? I really think my sister is very attractive, were both in
our early 20's I touch her and she does it to me sometimes. Like, is
this normal? Or What?
Dearest Normal,
Sexual feelings are normal, in all the unusual surprising and "not
normal" ways they get expressed, especially during those years before a
good relationship takes over. It's not the physical acts themselves that
cause trouble, but the psychological soup that stirs itself into a mess
you have to worry about. You have to above all concern yourself with HER
feelings and protect her from the disasters in her mind that would
prevent her from a healthy normal marriage. Brothers protect sisters.
Raw sex is not about love and there's nothing inherently wrong about
sex. You must stir the compassionate soup in your heart and think first
of the well being and love of your sister. It's important that your sex
play not grow into having sex because you would be navigating a very
difficult path that would threaten not only your future good
relationship with your sister, but yours and hers future relationships
in marriage. In short, it gets very complicated very quickly and most
often creates psychological knots that take years to undo.
So, your question: “Is it right?” means morally
right, which is a short cut to getting instructions...the cultural quick
guide for dummies...Morality develops in culture to help people avoid
disasters either psychological or physical like stop signs on the
street. The more sophisticated look at what’s right asks different
questions: Is this love? How do I protect the ones I love? How does she
feel? How do I protect her from doing something dumb? Your relationship
with your sister could become a rich and rewarding part of your adult
life that you will cherish and depend on all thru life. Don't mess it
up! Move on.
Yours,
The Dishwasher
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