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Hello Dishwasher,
For the last 8 months I have been having an affair, well not really an
affair, because I couldn’t keep this from my husband of 12 years. I
consider my husband my best friend and I do love him and would stop the
affair he asked me to. I told him I care for my lover deeply and this
new inspiration has lifted my spirits and he sees me all lit up and on
some level enjoys it too. I would have never predicted what happened
next. Last new years eve we all had dinner together and after a bottle
of wine and another bottle of wine we all got together in bed…. meaning
the guys all over me. The next morning there were no bad feelings. I
suspect we’ll do this again.
Here’s my problem. I’m totally mixed up and
confused …there are so many issues surfacing in my head not to mention
eternal damnation. I took an oath before God and everybody in marriage
and even though it seems no one is being hurt…I’m not sure. I’m not
overly religious or anything but it does enter my mind…am I going hell
for loving two men at the same time…I can’t ask for God’s forgiveness
…because well I ‘m just not sorry….
Sincerely,
Going to Hell for Love
Dearest Burnt up over love,
It's very possible for someone to love two different people at the same
time. Each Love is a result of those two individual people's focus on
each other and will manifest differently. Each relationship creates a
new you that is not contradictory to the other you’s that exist. Sounds
schizophrenic but it's not any different than having a different love
for children that you have for your parents that you have for a friend
and yet one more for a lover. Two lovers, no problem? The sum total of
you is but a multitude of you’s all racing around inside you.
God is much wiser and more sophisticated than you
describe. The sin of dishonesty is worse than the sin of confusion over
the right course of action in a romance.
You would be warned, however, that even though you
may come to terms with "loving two men" it doesn't guarantee that they
will. In fact, it is more likely that the marriage will either end or
your relationship outside the marriage will.
Good luck
The Dishwasher
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