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Dear Dishwasher,
I bought a lot on a beautiful creek in a wooded area not far from
town. I've always dreamed of a house in the country. I'm stuck and can't
seem to move forward or backward. I'm not satisfied with any design I come
up with. The task is too important once a design is finished and house is
built …well it's so final…this scares me. What if I make the wrong
choice and decide later that I don't like it. Then I think I need to work
on myself more . . that I'm not ready for this step. More soul searching
or do I build my dream house?
Sincerely,
Sarah
My Dearest Sarah,
When you're stuck ......
Don't focus on your stuckness, do something else. Many times
engaging in an unrelated task is a better way to approach your inner self
than staring the self right in the face.... "working on
yourself" is too self centered for me. It's too easy to trick the
self into thinking it's progress when it's really another dead end...maybe
an interesting one but a diversion none the less, just another reason to
keep you from growing. Build the house, and find out who you are in the
process....remember that houses are not permanent just like your physical
self...it's not the ultimate house you're building....just a house...to
express you immediate dreams a process that you may find you won't need or
like when the house is done.... Then sell it! and move on.
Don't buy the dream house myth......it's only the spiritual
journey that is real....the stuff you leave along the way are the props,
guideposts, and discarded symbols to be traded and sold, held onto by
someone else for a while, and let go of...on and on.... If you're worried
about money build a less expensive house.....a yurt, a hut, a boat or a
platform....go sit in it....until another idea comes....the process is
more important than the end result....
Have fun, my dear.
Love,
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