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I've plumbed the depths and I can’t find a soul mate…
Very well put...but (there's
always a but) underlying your thoughts exists several assumptions about
life. One is a very romantic notion that somewhere in the world there is a
"soul mate" for everyone...a modern version of "matches made in
heaven"…which was popular in the early American Church environments (helpful
in supporting chastity as a virtue) The more modern rendition is through
some magical synchronicity the two meet. The only difference is now you get
to sleep around a little before getting zapped wid da magic.
My suggestion is that this assumption is clouding your sight...shake it
off, baby, hit the cushion. In fact, even if it is true, you have to be able
to recognize your true love when that synchronicity moment slides by like
the notes played by an old saxophone in dark bars, or the sound of your
modem dialing newsgroups. You may have already been invited to the party.
Did Moses really think he was goin’ someplace?
You know, it’s like trying to meditate...or trying to RELAX...the drill
sergeant inside your head yells RELAX! Do it now! No potato. Hurry up and
wait. To really know how to wait takes an awful long time. Intention is the
enemy of enlightenment; rather than intend to ready your self for receiving
heaven’s pick, why not just intend to marry? Choose another assumption about
life that has worked for thousands of years in other cultures at other
times...Let your mate finding be a rational choice intended by you...as if
your parents had chosen her for you. Not very romantic, I know, but you see
through the shallowness of that anyway. The Love that is created in any
relationship is limited to the capacities of the partners to communicate,
trust, and live non-judgmentally and to let go.
Have fun,
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